The word care can invoke multiple feelings in people. For some this word makes them think of loved ones, making them feel warmth and love. For others, hearing or seeing this word immediately makes them think about their responsibilities, making them feel angst and stress. We all have people that we care about just as we all have many things that we feel responsible to care for. And this time of year, especially, there are so many people we want to express our care and concern for that it can feel overwhelming in trying to manage the stress we might feel in finding the perfect way to express this.
Because I care deeply about my family, I want to express this level of caring through my gift-giving. Yet somehow, we have equated the size, cost and desirability of a gift we present to be an indicator of the measurement of our level of care for them. This is why most parents make (or try to) the amount of money they spend on gifts for their children, equal. If I had twins and gave one of them a fancy new laptop while giving the other earmuffs and fuzzy slippers, they would naturally infer that I cared about the ‘laptop child’ more than I cared about the ‘earmuff child’.
This is also why I always make myself a list for the people I want to either buy a gift for or give a monetary gesture of my CARE and appreciation for … so I don’t forget someone! Of course, these gestures always invoke feelings of angst because I wonder how they will be received. If I really care about a person, such as a special co-worker, do I buy them a special gift worth $50 of caring and present it to them in a secret manner so that my other co-workers whom I baked cookies for, don’t feel that I care $40 less for them (assuming a built-in fee for the cost of my time in baking the cookies)? And if I don’t buy a special gift for my ‘special friend co-worker,’ will she think that I don’t care much about her? And then what if she cares ‘$100 special gift’ for me plus a homemade treat which happens to be my favorite treat in the whole world? Will my gift fall short in its representation of my care about her?
It is easy to say that it is about the gesture of giving and not the actual gift which matters most, but in this somewhat commercialized world, that isn’t really the case. I mean, even some charities list the dollar amount (in descending order, of course) of the gifts they received from people. Sometimes I am blown away to see how much a neighbor cares about a specific charity, making me feel that my ‘$35 amount of care’ gift classification indicates that I don’t care enough. This also contributes to why so many people feel free to share with anyone and everyone what they give to others so that anyone and everyone will consider them a person who cares A LOT!
I cannot offer advice on how to erase the stress of expressing your care for and about others during this holiday gift-giving season, but I can offer this; unconditionally caring for and about others can feel magical and when they, in turn, express their unconditional care for and about you, then you have given and received the PERFECT gift.
PRICELESS. PRICELESS.
Kathy Naumann, possessor of NATURALLY curly hair and the understanding that you can’t control everything!
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Winter sets in. Linda Lemmon photo.
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New coach
to lead Centaur
girls’ hockey
For the third time in three years, the Woodstock Academy girls’ hockey team will have a new head coach.
Although, unlike in most cases when this happens, the previous two head coaches are still with the team.
Eric Roy steps in as the new head coach for the Centaurs and he will be assisted by last year’s head coach Madison Millar and the head coach from the 2019-20 team, Jeff Boshka.
Roy comes over from the Daniel Hand High School program in Madison where he spent the last three seasons. Roy lives in Windham which made the Woodstock Academy program attractive for him.
“I am definitely excited for the closer opportunity. It was a little bittersweet to leave my Daniel Hand girls where I had seven seniors who are graduating this year who started with me,” Roy said.
Roy has been on the ice for as long as he can remember. “I learned to skate when my father threw me on a pond that we had behind our house and I cried and cried and cried, but still skated to him. I figured it out by myself,“ he said.
Roy went on to play youth hockey in South Windsor and high school hockey at East Hartford. He went to Niagara University where he played club hockey, but was injured, and decided coaching was for him.
He went back to his youth hockey roots in Central Connecticut where he coached for two years with the boys squirt program before taking on a new gig, coaching the Northern Lights girls’ club program with a friend for six years.
That same friend started the Avon-Southington cooperative high school program where Roy went for a couple of years before taking over the Hand program.
He inherits a Centaur program that is a little small in number for Roy’s likes.
Woodstock Academy has 18 girls out, 16 of those are skaters with two goalies.
“The numbers aren’t that big, but there is promise since six are very young and that bodes well for the future but this year, we’re an injury or COVID-scare away from very low numbers,” Roy said.
The good thing for the Centaurs, senior Mia Dang is a fixture in goal. Dang, who raised eyebrows with her golf skills that led the Centaurs to a Div. II state championship this past spring, is solid in between the posts.
“In my years of coaching, she’s the best goalie I’ve seen. In my coaching, I’ve been blessed with a good team and a girl who has had to learn in the net. It was always tough because I had to play a defensive style of hockey because I knew I was in trouble back there. But Mia controls the net pretty well, is pretty confident in herself and allows us to concentrate on the offensive end because she has us covered back there,” Roy said.
Junior Elizabeth Morgis is Dang’s understudy but those are the only two goalies in the program which means Roy and his staff will have to start working on a backup goalie plan for next season, hopefully, this year.
Keynila Hochard and Alex Lee will anchor the defense although don’t expect them to stay behind the blue line.
“They are both solid defensemen, but I like a brand of hockey where my defensemen are involved in the offense. They aren’t used to it so I’m loosening them up a little bit,” Roy said. “Lee will be a Swiss Army knife. She plays defense but I’m going to use her everywhere.”
Up front, the Centaurs do have senior Sydney Haskins who had six points in her sophomore season and added four goals in the abbreviated three-game season last year.
“Sydney can light the lamp, (senior) Bella (Chaves) will also be one of our top scorers, I would be surprised if they’re not 1-2 on the team in scoring. Bella is fun to watch with the puck. She can do some things and make some people look bad. It’s cool to see,” Roy said.
The Centaurs also have seniors Hannah Clark, and Brigid McNerney and junior Bryn Miller.
Grace Pokorny is only a freshman but is playing in her third season with the program.
It will be a much busier winter for the Centaurs this season.
They are scheduled to play 15 games, including seven Central Massachusetts League contests. Woodstock finished 3-8-3 overall and 1-2-3 in the lower division of the Central Mass League in its inaugural campaign in 2019-20.
The Centaurs will also play several Rhode Island teams including Burrillville, Smithfield and Warwick.
“This will be a whole new world for me. Normally, I can sit there, look at the schedule and know what I have coming at me. I’m relying on my assistant coaches to tell me and the players what a Burrillville or Leominster (Mass..) has. I have no clue,” Roy said. “It’s important for us to have some sort of league (title) to play for or else, you’re just playing. It’s just participation. You can get stale playing for nothing so it’s good to have something.”
In addition to playing for the league division title, the Centaurs will also play in a four-team tournament in Auburn at the end of the season. It will be the closest the Centaurs will come to postseason play.
Woodstock, since it is a Connecticut school, is not eligible for the Massachusetts Interscholastic Athletic Association girls’ hockey state tournament and the Connecticut Interscholastic Athletic Conference does not sponsor a postseason state tournament in the sport.
Girls' Hockey Schedule: Dec. 15: vs. Burrillville 6 p.m.; Dec. 22: vs. Oakmont (MA.), 5; Dec. 27: at Auburn (MA.) (at Hogan Ice Rink), 1; Dec. 30: vs. Ridgefield Co-Op, 11; Jan. 7: at Warwick (RI), 7; Jan. 15: vs. Auburn, 7; Jan. 19: vs. Leominster, 7; Jan. 23: at Oakmont (MA.) (at Cushing Academy), noon; Jan. 26: at Leominster, 5:30; Feb. 2: vs. Smithfield, 7; Feb. 5: at Pope Francis (Mass..), 5; Feb. 12: vs. Warwick, 6; Feb. 16: at Auburn Tournament, 5; Feb. 19: at Auburn tournament, TBA; March 5: at Hand Co-Op, 7.
Marc Allard
Director of Sports Information
The Woodstock Academy
Woodstock Academy senior Hannah Clark handles the puck in a recent practice at the Pomfret School’s Jahn Ice Rink. Defenseman Alex Lee fires a shot at goalie Mia Dang in a recent practice. Photos by Madison Millar/The Woodstock Academy.
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Andrey Sazhin, left, and Tayler Shea at the Holly Jolly Bartender Night.
Bryan Smith prepares to remove the beard of Matt Rondeau of the Putnam Police Department.
By Linda Lemmon
Town Crier Editor
‘Tis the season for generosity — a triple helping’s worth.
Every nonprofit in the Quiet Corner, it seems, is seeing records broken in this giving season.
Whether it’s funds, toys, nonperishable foods, turkeys, nonprofits are seeing generosity like never before. And not necessarily just at Christmas.
Paws Cat Shelter in Woodstock saw record-breaking support all year long. Fay Beriau, president/owner (or as she tells everyone “I pay the bills” (lol)) said: “Since the pandemic, I have seen our community become more generous, not only with Paws but with each other. I am on several of the town sites — Plainfield, Killingly, Putnam, Woodstock — and I have seen the residents just step up and help someone when they are in need. If someone needs something, I have watched everyone just jump in and help. With everything happening today, it is very refreshing to see the acts of compassion in our community.” She added, “The generosity of this community is very overwhelming which is why we may not have much, but we try and give back as much as we can.”
Recounting the year of ups and down, Beriau said the community always came through. She said: “Our community is so generous and we want to give back as much as we can. The most recent is the food drive and the idea was that we were low on food for our community. We have many that contact us looking for food etc. We have partnered with Pet Pals Northeast and work together to help change the life of cats in our community. When we took the Jordan Cove cats (all 39 of them) from the hoarding house in February, we were overwhelmed by the community’s support. When we have sick cats and need help raising money for their bills, our community is there” and many more examples, all year long.
Putnam Police Department Chief Christopher D. Ferace said every one of the department’s fund-raisers set records.
He said, “I am absolutely astounded by the generosity of the people of the Northeast. People take care of people up here like no other place.” Police Captain Justin Lussier said, “We are really proud to be a community partner in these efforts”.
Anne Miller, executive director of TEEG, said: “The outreach for the holiday season has been overwhelming and heartwarming.” The list this year is extensive and does not include the many families and individuals who have raised money, businesses who have sent a holiday check, and drives TEEG isn’t aware of, she said. The list: Wasco Corporation- Toy Drive, Quest Martial Arts- Food Drive, Lake Road Generating- Toy/Food Drive, Putnam Rotary- Board Games, Woodstock Fire Departments- Toy Drive, Body Balance- fund-raiser; Signature Properties; Girl Scout Troop- Woodstock- Coat Drive; Putnam Elks/Putnam Supermarket- Food Delivery Baskets for our Seniors for Christmas; Chrome N Steel Veterans Riders Club- Toy Drive; State Police Food Drive; Raceway Golf Club and Tristate Golf Company- Toy Drive; Tourtellotte Memorial High School- Food Drive; Mary R. Fisher Elementary School- Food Drive; Thompson National Junior Honor Society- Food Drive; Bradley Playhouse- Food;
YMCA- Food Drive; Pomfret Proprietors – Food Drive 1st Saturdays of the month – Loos & Co; Woodstock Democratic Town Committee Boot Drive; VFW Putnam – Toy Drive; WINY Food Chain – Karen & Gary Osbrey; Pomfret Community School National Junior Honor Society – Food Drive; Raceway Golf Club and Tristate Golf Company – Toy Drive. She said the Pomfret Community School NJHS collected 1,300 items. “They broke their own 15-year record!”
Karen Osbrey, director of the Interfaith Human Services of Putnam, said on the Daily Bread Facebook page, said around Thanksgiving: “Thank you from all of us at Daily Bread! It was a long weekend of collecting, sorting and weighing donations, plus food distributions and senior deliveries. But due to the never ending generosity of our community and groups like the Putnam Police Department, we were able to support our friends and neighbors in need.”
Amanda Kelly, executive director of the Hale YMCA Youth and Family Center, said although they didn’t set any records this year, they did see donations to their Putnam Family Resource Center and TEEGs giving tree collections go back to “normal” after COVID last December. Hale Y has taken part in that collection since 2016 and Abby Poirier, camp director, took over coordinating the giving tree collection last year. More than 100 donated gifts this year, she said. The Hale Y also received toys from the HYPE Tons of Toys event. “It’s been wonderful to see members feeling more comfortable and returning to working out at the Y, but also seeing their generosity extend to the area children.”
Putnam Police Department Projects
“No Shave November 2021”. It’s a statewide law enforcement campaign initiated by the CT Cancer Foundation. Putnam PD started to participate in 2018, this is our fourth year. For the month of November our police officers who normally aren’t allow to grow beards do not have to shave. They donate the cost of shaving supplies for the month $1 a day ($30) to be allowed to grow a beard and not shave. Then to add some fun we invited the community to fund raise with us, if someone or a business pledges a minimum $50 donation to our fund-raising campaign, they can make that officer shave his beard. This year the “Save it or Shave it” thing took off with one of our Community Service Officers, Matt Rondeau. All of sudden businesses were donating so Matt could keep it and others were donating for him to shave it. It really generated community participation while fund raising for CCF. All proceeds go to the CT Cancer Foundation and we should be making a donation of $2,336. This was our best fund-raising year ever.
“Pink Patch Project 2021” which also started in 2018, my first year here, is public awareness campaign, championed by law enforcement departments across the U.S., designed to bring attention to the fight against breast cancer and to support breast cancer research organizations in combating this disease. This year by selling Putnam Police “pink police patches,” pink “No one fights alone” rubber bracelets along with T-shirts and sweatshirts, we were able to make a $2,500 donation to the Day Kimball Hospital Northeast Cancer Fund.
“Handcuff Hunger 2021” this campaign is driven by Law Enforcement in the northeast, started several years ago before I became chief. The Putnam Police and the CT State Police in their jurisdictions participate in a turkey & food drive the weekend before Thanksgiving. We accept frozen turkeys or hams dinner fixings, and non-perishables, along with cash donations to feed the food insecure over the Thanksgiving and holiday season. All of our efforts and donations go to either the Daily Bread or TEEG to assist those in need in the immediate areas. This year was our most successful year and people seemed extremely generous. The Putnam PD, while collecting outside of Price Chopper, pulled in 164 turkeys, 31 hams, more than 2 tons of nonperishables, $3,975 in cash and $465 in Price Chopper Gift cards. All of which was split by Daily Bread and TEEG.
"Stuff A Cruiser 2021” this is our second year holding the toy drive. In eight hours members of the Putnam Police, standing will be outside WINY Radio, collected new toys and cash to distribute to the Putnam Family Resource Center, providing generous holidays for those families in need. Last year we stuffed a cruiser two and one-half times over and collected $2,900 in cash. This year, he said, The Stuff A Cruiser event went extremely well. We filled a cruiser nearly three times over and received cash donations of $3,440. What a great days for the local community,” he said, adding: “Christmas is for kids and no kid should wake up disappointed on Christmas morning. Our hope was to help make sure every kid has that wonderful Christmas.”
NOW had numerous events — the most recent one being The Holly Jolly Bartender Night fund-raiser which shattered records.
The NOW Holly Jolly Bartender Night was indeed jolly, raising $11,397.
The 3rd Annual NOW Bartender Night fund-raiser will be used to support youth wellness programs and scholarships for children living in the 10-town area.
The Legal Eagles (Tom Borner, Kate Cerrone, Madilyn Smith and Judge Leah Schade) raised $1,232; “The Killer J’s” (Jeff Rawson, Jake Dykeman, Jack Burke and Jimmy Logsdon) raised $1,727; “Bring it to the Bank” raised $722 (Maria Thomas, Jay Howard, Mark Light and Gene Michael Deary); “Talented Talkers” raised $1,242.75 (Jay Byrnes, Tina Chahanovich, Elle-Jordyn Goslin and Gary Osbrey); “The Professionals” took in $1,159 (Jessica Rawson, Dick Loomis, Matt Desaulnier, and Dr. Allie Robin); Bringing the highest total of the night, $2,521, was the “Keep Calm & Sell On” team which included: Jason Verraneault, Andrey Sazhin, Amy Brunet, and Denny Gates; The “Wireless Warriors” raised $728 (Josh Paul, Sam Stamatiou, Patrick Lynch, and Nick Rybacki); The “Martial Arts Mommas” raised $835 (Kristin Duethorn, Michelle Lengyel, Erica Seraphin, and Kristen Finnemore);
In addition to the tips from each shift, the event also raised funds through a drawing for several items donated by local businesses and individuals. NOW Executive Director Tayler Shea said: “We beyond amazed and thrilled with the results of the NOW Holly Jolly Bartender Night. We were optimistic that we would raise as much as the previous year’s event but we were once again blown away by the generosity of our community and surpassing our goal by over $3,000!”
Asked why this area and this year showed over and above generosity, Shea said: “It is amazing how generous this area is! I think it has to do with not being able to do much during the pandemic. I also think a lot of people realized how fortunate they are/how easy it is to fall into unforeseen and unfortunate circumstances. I think the pandemic made a lot of people more empathetic to other people’s situations!”
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